Abortion – To Ban or Not to Ban?

“The irrationality of disgust suggests it is unreliable as a source of moral insight. There may be good arguments against gay marriage, partial-birth abortions and human cloning, but the fact that some people find such acts to be disgusting should carry no weight. – Paul Bloom”

These days there is a new topic of discussion I see doing the rounds – Abortion.

I see articles after articles & so many heated arguments regarding this. It saddens my heart when I see people arguing and throwing around words – sluts, murderers & child killers around.

The main issue here is that people try to look at this from two different angles, one is if it is morally right or wrong & another that banning it takes away basic women rights.

But these arguments make no sense! It doesn’t lead anywhere because people who believe that abortion is killing babies, they are never going to see it from the perspective of the person who thinks it isn’t (and vice versa).

Now I ask you to relate this issue to another one that has been doing rounds for years now – LGBTQ relationships. In this issue, too, we see people who advocate basic human rights & people who vehemently disagree that such relationships should even exist.

The whole point of mentioning this is that no matter whether we agree or disagree, banning a relationship or banning abortion isn’t going to stop people from doing it. Banning it would only increase the risks of deaths among children & women. Banning it would lead to various dangerous back alley procedures & a myriad of other problems.*

Banning isn’t a solution to any issue like this.

This was the case years ago when abortion & usage of birth control methods were punishable by death but this lead to a whole host of other problems as mentioned earlier; risks of deaths & botched illegal procedures.

The whole reason we have an option of abortion is so that parents who cannot afford to take care of a disabled child, they have an option of not doing so. Not every city in the world is equipped with support for the disabled.

At the same time, parents who don’t see children in their future, should not be forced to have a child for the sake of it. Can you imagine the increase in child abuse, the number of orphaned children, & a whole set of children with mental health issues because of unloving parents?

What about women who are raped, why should they have to carry a child that they didn’t plan to have, they never asked for any of it.

While there are options that would decrease abortion such as condoms & birth control pills but ‘not wanting to have babies’ aren’t the only reasons one would want to get an abortion.

All I would say is this – Try not to look at this issue from a moral angle or a feminist one. The only thing that should matter is that a person (in this case, women) should always have a choice.

It may not be right or the best option available, but it doesn’t mean the choice should be taken away from them.

*  An article that discusses the risks of banning abortions ->  http://www.businessinsider.com/anti-abortion-womens-health-effects-2016-7

 

Don’t Give Up

Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Some days are supposed to be perfect,
But they don’t turn out the way you thought they would…
Expectations aren’t met,
And everything that couldn’t possibly go wrong,
Go Wrong…

But what I want to tell you is;
Don’t give up,
Don’t stop working,
Don’t stop trying,
Don’t stop at all…

I know you’re giving it a 120%
But sometimes the results just don’t show,
Especially, when you want them to.

It takes time,
Good things always do…
All you need to do is focus,
And work hard-smart.

You go through shit,
Things you never knew could happen to you,
Come and push you further down…
Face it,
Beat it,
Fight it,
Even if there’s no end in sight.

No matter how much you’re hurting right now,
No matter how much worse it gets from here on out,
Don’t give up.

This is your dream,
There is no way out.
Stick to it,
Cry tears of pain and blood,
Burn and scream,
Feel the pain cut through you…

It may not seem like it now,
But you’re a step closer to the person,
You’re supposed to be…

Just don’t ever- Give up.

Running Away…

“Running, you should know, is a kind of stillness.” ― Tiphanie YaniqueHow to Escape from a Leper Colony

Sometimes I wonder what that would be like?
To run away, from everything good & bad,
To forget everything you’ve lived through so far,
Only to remember the new…

To move to a place unknown,
That teaches me to unlearn all that I know…
Where there is no one you recognize,
Or even want to know…
Where strangers are your only friends
And that’s the way it would always be…

What would it be like to live in a world,
Where no one knows you & no one cares to,
Where people smile at you because they’re obliged to,
Where speaking to a stranger is a waste of their time…

What would it be like,
To run away?
Never to return & never to look back?

What would it be like to run away,
To a place far away;
A place to forever roam,
Never to return to the place I once called ‘Home’…

Don’t be a Bystander…

“Stand up to ignorance, because if you don’t, the ignorant will run free to spread ignorance like a disease.” ― Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem

Don’t be a Bystander
Stand up & fight for her…

Don’t tell her what to wear,
Eat,
Or Do…
Stand up for her instead…

Sometimes she’s tired
Of all the touches, glares & weird grins…
Fight for her,
When she can’t, for herself…

It doesn’t matter where she is,
In crowds or secluded places,
It isn’t her fault…

Actually, it’s never her fault…

Tell her she’s strong
When she’s not…
Tell her you’re with her
No matter what…

Tell her to hit & kick & shout & scream
When they use her body
To boost their ego,
prove their “manliness”,
and satisfy their so-called “needs”…

Tell her it isn’t her fault
Till she believes it,

And, you believe it yourself…

Learn what’s truly right & wrong
And Fight for her,
When she can’t, for herself

 

 

Acceptance

“…When you stopped wishing things wouldn’t fall apart, you’d stop suffering when they did.” ― John Green

Once you accept everything in your control and all that isn’t, life suddenly seems like a ‘breeze’ to live.
It feels as though a weight is lifted off your shoulders. It’s easier to breathe, to love and to smile.

There was a question, always on my mind; “What if?”

What if I studied a bit more?
What if I feared a bit less?
What if I did something more useful?

What if? What if? What if?

I got tired of asking these questions to myself; day in & day out.
I got tired that my brain and my heart had to go through this whole round of hate, self- pity & regret to answer those questions.

I detested the fact that I put myself through all of this self-doubt & negativity. It was absolutely awful.
Imagine thinking about all of these negative situations, all throughout the day, when that’s what they’ll always be; negative situations. They may not even play out in real life!
What I did know,however, was that it was eating me alive; turning me into someone I couldn’t even recognize.

So now I accept. I accept myself as I am and the reasons that have led me to be where I am today. I accept that not everything is under my control & sometimes, I have to let go.

Like Mr. Henry Wadsworth Longfellow says “For, after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.”

I have slowly started to see life what it truly is; A Flawed Beauty; A wonder of its own, unique to it’s Maker.