Abortion – To Ban or Not to Ban?

“The irrationality of disgust suggests it is unreliable as a source of moral insight. There may be good arguments against gay marriage, partial-birth abortions and human cloning, but the fact that some people find such acts to be disgusting should carry no weight. – Paul Bloom”

These days there is a new topic of discussion I see doing the rounds – Abortion.

I see articles after articles & so many heated arguments regarding this. It saddens my heart when I see people arguing and throwing around words – sluts, murderers & child killers around.

The main issue here is that people try to look at this from two different angles, one is if it is morally right or wrong & another that banning it takes away basic women rights.

But these arguments make no sense! It doesn’t lead anywhere because people who believe that abortion is killing babies, they are never going to see it from the perspective of the person who thinks it isn’t (and vice versa).

Now I ask you to relate this issue to another one that has been doing rounds for years now – LGBTQ relationships. In this issue, too, we see people who advocate basic human rights & people who vehemently disagree that such relationships should even exist.

The whole point of mentioning this is that no matter whether we agree or disagree, banning a relationship or banning abortion isn’t going to stop people from doing it. Banning it would only increase the risks of deaths among children & women. Banning it would lead to various dangerous back alley procedures & a myriad of other problems.*

Banning isn’t a solution to any issue like this.

This was the case years ago when abortion & usage of birth control methods were punishable by death but this lead to a whole host of other problems as mentioned earlier; risks of deaths & botched illegal procedures.

The whole reason we have an option of abortion is so that parents who cannot afford to take care of a disabled child, they have an option of not doing so. Not every city in the world is equipped with support for the disabled.

At the same time, parents who don’t see children in their future, should not be forced to have a child for the sake of it. Can you imagine the increase in child abuse, the number of orphaned children, & a whole set of children with mental health issues because of unloving parents?

What about women who are raped, why should they have to carry a child that they didn’t plan to have, they never asked for any of it.

While there are options that would decrease abortion such as condoms & birth control pills but ‘not wanting to have babies’ aren’t the only reasons one would want to get an abortion.

All I would say is this – Try not to look at this issue from a moral angle or a feminist one. The only thing that should matter is that a person (in this case, women) should always have a choice.

It may not be right or the best option available, but it doesn’t mean the choice should be taken away from them.

*  An article that discusses the risks of banning abortions ->  http://www.businessinsider.com/anti-abortion-womens-health-effects-2016-7

 

Don’t Give Up

Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Some days are supposed to be perfect,
But they don’t turn out the way you thought they would…
Expectations aren’t met,
And everything that couldn’t possibly go wrong,
Go Wrong…

But what I want to tell you is;
Don’t give up,
Don’t stop working,
Don’t stop trying,
Don’t stop at all…

I know you’re giving it a 120%
But sometimes the results just don’t show,
Especially, when you want them to.

It takes time,
Good things always do…
All you need to do is focus,
And work hard-smart.

You go through shit,
Things you never knew could happen to you,
Come and push you further down…
Face it,
Beat it,
Fight it,
Even if there’s no end in sight.

No matter how much you’re hurting right now,
No matter how much worse it gets from here on out,
Don’t give up.

This is your dream,
There is no way out.
Stick to it,
Cry tears of pain and blood,
Burn and scream,
Feel the pain cut through you…

It may not seem like it now,
But you’re a step closer to the person,
You’re supposed to be…

Just don’t ever- Give up.

When everything seems Right

“They ask. “How are you doing?” But what they mean is “Are you over it yet?” My lips say, “Fine, thanks”, but my eyes tell a different story, my heart sings a different tune, and my soul just weeps.” – healthyplace.com

Sometimes even when things seem right
Even when things are going according to plan
Even though everything is right where it’s supposed to be
Even when you are where you’re supposed to be

It feels wrong and weird
Like your perfect world is suddenly turned to a shade,
Darker than the darkest shade of gray
When you have the most wonderful conversations,
But they’re always tinted with a hint of sadness

You feel like you’re in a dark hole
Some place warm & safe,
But you can’t feel anything there
Not sadness, not happiness
It’s a place that sucks your soul dry,
Of everything good & everything bad
And you’re left with nothing

Waking up is a chore
Eating is a task
Others are better off away
Living seems unnecessary…

All you can see in this perfect world
Through tear glazed eyes
And a numb mind,
Is lost hope & dreams
The lost will to live
And all the imperfections in everything that is just right…

 

Running Away…

“Running, you should know, is a kind of stillness.” ― Tiphanie YaniqueHow to Escape from a Leper Colony

Sometimes I wonder what that would be like?
To run away, from everything good & bad,
To forget everything you’ve lived through so far,
Only to remember the new…

To move to a place unknown,
That teaches me to unlearn all that I know…
Where there is no one you recognize,
Or even want to know…
Where strangers are your only friends
And that’s the way it would always be…

What would it be like to live in a world,
Where no one knows you & no one cares to,
Where people smile at you because they’re obliged to,
Where speaking to a stranger is a waste of their time…

What would it be like,
To run away?
Never to return & never to look back?

What would it be like to run away,
To a place far away;
A place to forever roam,
Never to return to the place I once called ‘Home’…

Suicide

“Did you really want to die?”
“No one commits suicide because they want to die.”
“Then why do they do it?”
“Because they want to stop the pain.” ― Tiffanie DeBartolo, How to Kill a Rock Star

There are so many articles, movies, TV shows, Cartoons, experts, doctors and so many people who talk about what Suicide is.
They say how unnatural & selfish the person who commits suicide is, they say that they should’ve just asked for help, they say they don’t think of anyone else but themselves, they say they’re just stupid or that they just wanted attention.

I’m just another person to tell you what it really is. What you really feel at that moment you want to just die.

I can tell you that, it’s not like that moment when you say I’ve had such a bad day, I want to die. No, it isn’t that moment when your grades are low that one exam & you want to just die. It isn’t when your bills came out so high that month, you want to die.

No, that isn’t what it is.

It’s days, weeks & months of pain,
Pain that takes you to point when you can’t feel anything
It’s pain that drags you to a corner
And makes you hate everything and feel nothing
It repeats the bad stuff over & over & over

It’s when you push the good stuff away
It’s when you know you’re a burden
When the smallest of mistakes make you feel like a loser

It’s the constant pain
Just & only pain

It’s days of being underwater with no way out
It’s days of hating yourself
It’s days of breathing with your ‘heart under attack’
It’s days of your brain telling you to quit
It’s days of people telling you to go away
It’s days of bullying
It’s days of being called a ‘loser’
It’s days of crying & suffering

It’s days of no one smiling at you
It’s days of no one asking you “How are you?”
It’s days of no one caring for you
It’s days & days of torture within the core of your very being

It’s days of knowing it won’t matter if you’re alive anyway

So, it’s better off, being dead instead.