“I finally understood what true love meant…love meant that you care for another person’s happiness more than your own, no matter how painful the choices you face might be.” ― Nicholas Sparks, Dear John
They were two ordinary individuals who attended a marriage function. Alex was the bride’s best friend of 8 years & Sanjay was related to the groom.
This wedding was a little different. It went against the cultural norms of both families. The bride was Italian & the Groom was Indian.
They decided to get married in a little hall in a country side in India. The wedding was going to be a little different. It would be a part-Hindu & part- Christian wedding. Yes, there was a priest from a nearby Catholic church & the family “Maharaj”. But that would be described in another story, the one of the Bride & Groom.
This story is about Alex & Sanjay.
During the Sangeet function, While Sanjay was serving cold drinks to the red-faced relatives of the bride & playfully flirting with the bride’s sisters, he caught Alex staring at him who then quickly looked away. Sanjay decided to ask Alex to dance with him who agreed in a jiffy.
While they danced, they were so awful together that the whole hall ringed of laughter rather than the music being played. Embarrassed, they decided to run away & explore the country side the rest of the day.
They roamed around & climbed a hill nearby to get a better view of the place. As they climbed, they spoke to each other as though they had known each other for years. They felt as though they finally met that person everyone looks for to spend the rest of their life with. They felt an instant connection & a spark that fueled the love they had within themselves.
What came next is predictable; just like in any other love story.
They reach the top of the hill, look at each other & realize that they have fallen in love.
You would now be wondering why I typed in another love story. And why do I call it extra-ordinary? I could have described the wedding; at least that would have been more interesting!
But because the society deems this as unnatural, I would have to say that this is not your ordinary love story because the protagonists in this tale are both Male. Yes, they are Gay/Homosexual/Queer.
Here is where I would like to ask does that make this Love story any different or extra-ordinary? What makes this love story any different? It is love after all. The only difference probably that is Boy meets Boy & they fall in love. How does it matter that both the protagonists in this story are of the same gender?
When two souls find each other, their connection can never be broken, even after death. No amount of hate, lashes, taunts or brain-washing can break it. The soul would stick to that body till the very end. When two souls connect, the love they share is pure & beautiful.
These souls sing songs written by the Gods & Angels in heaven. Yes, the same God, you, the society, fears so much. The same God, whose name you use to defame the minority.
Instead of thinking of whether it is immoral or not, you should look inside of yourself & ask your own soul if it really matters what body or gender these souls are in.
When a Man says this to a Woman (in Notebook), “The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever…”
Why do we categorize it to be different, unnatural or weird when a man says this to another man?
Nancy Garden has rightly quoted in her book, Annie on My Mind “There’s a Greek legend—no, it’s in something Plato wrote—about how true lovers are really two halves of the same person. It says that people wander around searching for their other half, and when they find him or her, they are finally whole and perfect. The thing that gets me is that the story says that originally all people were really pairs of people, joined back to back, and that some of the pairs were man and man, some woman and woman, and others man and woman. What happened was that all of these double people went to war with the gods, and the gods, to punish them, split them all in two. That’s why some lovers are heterosexual and some are homosexual, female and female, or male and male.”
It really shouldn’t matter that they kiss or have a sexual relationship with someone of the same gender. Ultimately, “Gender preference does not define you. Your spirit defines you.” (― P.C. Cast, Awakened)
So I ask you again, Is the story of Alex & Sanjay an Extra-Ordinary Love Story?